How To Argue With People Less Wise Than You (i.e. teens)

Conflicts are important because they can lead to solutions, treaties and hugs (always welcome here). But arguing well is a skill that needs regular practice.

The following guide is for arguments between you and somebody less wise than you, i.e. a teenager. It’s not meant for controversies with small children, though. Disputes with jumping-up-and-down-toddlers with strings of snot in their hair are dealt with by: squatting to eye-level, engaging soothing voice, employing Aristotelian logic to justify why they can’t have an ice lolly for supper.

1.       Don’t initiate an argument in the car unless you are the driver.

2.       Pick a time when they’re already grumpy: they won’t be able to accuse you of ruining their day.

3.       Start a fight when you’re not at home: the paintwork around the doorframes will thank you.

4.       Don’t raise your voice if their voice is deeper and louder than yours.

5.       Talk over them so that you can’t hear what they’re saying. It’ll minimise the risk of you being swayed from your wiser, superior convictions.

6.       Make wide-ranging statements, shoot generic accusations and pad your sentences with ‘always’ and ‘never’: fighting one ‘blanket’ argument is more efficient than entertaining separate ones for different issues.

7.       Increase your credibility by showing off your credentials, stressing how you got to where you are by your wise choices, superior acumen and tireless hard work.

8.       Don’t be egotistical: it’s not about you. Don’t say “Last night I worried when you weren’t home by the time we agreed, because I love you and I feared something might have happened to you”. Instead, put them and their feelings at the centre by saying something like “You couldn’t be bothered to respect my curfew because you hate me and are trying to send me to an early grave.”

As always, feel free to add to my list!

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22 Comments Add yours

  1. A good post, Stefania. A case of ‘many a true word spoken in jest’!

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    1. Thank you, Valeria, you’re always very kind 🙂

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  2. daddy4life says:

    So true!! Great advice

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  3. Megala says:

    Yes, it needs a regular practice ! 🙂

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  4. Yes, like any skill or art 😉


  5. One of the Dr OZ shows discussed why teenage daughters feel they know more than their parents. Something in their brain, don’t recall the science of it, triggers them to think this way. And so when I’m TRULY frustrated with my 17 year old I try to remember this. I tell all my friends too–Oh that’s your daughter’s brain empowering her to think that way. Thank you for the advice. I love the suggestion for number 8. I will have to use that one. Lol. 🙂

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  6. Thank you for your comment and for sharing what you’ve found out 🙂


      1. You are very welcome. X

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  7. OMGOSH…such a great list! Saving some of these for later. Mine is 11, but very very close to some of these type of “discussions”. The talking over one…my fave. #blogcrush

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  8. wendy says:

    Haha, this made me laugh. My boy is just 4 and we are already having some almighty arguments…somehow he always wins! Not looking forward to the teen years xx #blogcrush

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  9. Glad I made you laugh: I’m convinced laughing helps all mums survive.
    I wouldn’t worry too much about the teen years: some parents prefer teens to toddlers, because they prefer strategy and cunny to physical challenges (‘can I squeeze out of the room without the floorboards creaking and waking my child?’). You might be one of them.xx


  10. Haha, all valid points indeed! 😀

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  11. Oh my word! I’ve just read a number of your blogs in succession and now tears are streaming down my cheeks and my sides are sore from laughing! Thank you so much. I shall start applying this advice immediately, watch out world!

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    1. Thank you. Sorry for any soreness I’ve caused 😉

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      1. I see you followed me (thank you) there is more activity on my “Losing the Plot” site though – I prob need to delete the other one. Still getting used to it

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  12. Sure. Can you give me the address? (of course, clumsy me cannot find it)


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