Should Women Propose?

In this age of equal opportunities, a surprisingly tiny number of women pops “the questions”. According to a survey of married couples in America, only in 5% of cases it was the woman to propose, even though three quarters of Americans say that it would be fine for the woman to propose. In an age…

The Dangers of a Wet Neck

Nothing is more dangerous than a smack of cold air to the back of your neck. We Italians have learn it from our mothers, just as they’ve learnt it from theirs. From Romulus and Remus’ furry mother to today’s waxed ones, over the millennia, the wisdom is passed on. Extreme changes of temperature in the…

Pasta alla Trapanese

“The way to a person’s heart is through the stomach.” This might not be anatomically correct, but it’s true: feeding is the most basic and primitive act of caring (and one that animals understand too). Another act of caring, I say, is teaching others how to cook. So here it is, from me to you,…

The Bikini Test

Originally posted on The Sicilian Mama:
We Italians spend lots of time and energy getting our bodies ready for the infamous ‘bikini test’. With 3400 km of coastline, most Italian end up on the beach at some point or other during the summer. I remember looking at shop windows and saying to myself: “I’ll buy…

Better Sleep

Here’s a comforting thought: if traditional remedies exist, it means that our ancestors must have suffered from bad sleep. That’s even though they did plenty of physical exercise, had no artificial light, and didn’t use screens till late. We didn’t invent sleep trouble. One less thing to beat ourselves about. What are the traditional Italian…

How to Apologise When You’re Not in the Wrong

We Sicilian Mamas are never in the wrong. Still, sometimes, people think we are and they expect an apology. This is how you apologise when you’re not in the wrong: The “I’m sorry but…” apology. This is an apology with an educational value. With it, you can explain to the other person what really went…

How To Forgive

Forgiving means giving up revenge, seething and wishing painful death onto those who have hurt us. Why should we forgive? Because revenge is extremely energy-intensive and its return on investment is usually very poor. Also, if we don’t forgive, we’ll get stomach ulcers, heart attacks and migraines too. When we forgive, we imply that we…

Gift Ideas for the Unfaithful Partner

At this time of year, you’re probably scratching your head – and your wallet – to find the perfect gift for your other half. You’re looking for the kind of present that shows effort, care and deep knowledge of your beloved. But what if he/she has been unfaithful? Do they still deserve a present? Of…

How To Be More Attractive

Originally posted on The Sicilian Mama:
In movies, the ugly heroes/-ines turn into stunning beauties just by changing outfit and ditching their bottle-thick glasses. The actors haven’t changed, they’ve just switched to ‘acting attractive’ (and wearing better make-up). If they can make themselves more attractive, can we too? Attractive is as attractive does. Act attractive…

A good partner is like the taxman

(I originally wrote this for Headstuff.org ) If you want your relationship to soar to the highest echelons of couple’s harmony and satisfaction, take the taxman as your role model: When in doubt, overestimate the other person’s worth Assume that your partner is emotionally, mentally, spiritually richer than he/she looks. It’s just that the stress…