A good partner is like the taxman

(I originally wrote this for Headstuff.org ) If you want your relationship to soar to the highest echelons of couple’s harmony and satisfaction, take the taxman as your role model: When in doubt, overestimate the other person’s worth Assume that your partner is emotionally, mentally, spiritually richer than he/she looks. It’s just that the stress…

New Year, New You: unleash your inner teen!

It’s the time of year when resolutions, goals and plans are de rigueur. Teenagers can be an inspiration for our personal betterment. What can we learn from them? Live in the moment The ultimate experts in the mindful art of living in the moment, teenagers barely ever dwell on past lessons or future consequences. As…

How to survive family gatherings

Originally posted on The Sicilian Mama:
Family gatherings aren’t always the pleasant, heart-warming occasions they’re pictured to be. These are some of the reasons: The nosy parker. When you were little, Uncle Jack always asked about your school grades. Later, he often spared you the trouble of introducing your new boyfriend to the family (“Who…

There’s a Solution to Everything

Originally posted on The Sicilian Mama:
‘There’s a solution to everything, except death,’ goes an Italian proverb (A tutto c’è rimedio, tranne alla morte). My Grandma used to repeat it to me every time I despaired about something. Below you’ll find some remedies to common problems. Problem Solution Constipation Sicilian remedy: stewed apple Diarrhoea Sicilian…

How To Argue With Your Partner

Originally posted on The Sicilian Mama:
Move away from fragile items. Stick to the original topic. If your started off about dirty laundry and, after a while, you find yourselves arguing over money, unless you’ve mentioned a launderette along the way, you’ve gone off topic. Mentioning in-laws, each other’s friends or pets grants an instant…

How to survive family gatherings

Family gatherings aren’t always the pleasant, heart-warming occasions they’re pictured to be. These are some of the reasons: The nosy parker. When you were little, Uncle Jack always asked about your school grades. Later, he often spared you the trouble of introducing your new boyfriend to the family (“Who was the boy I saw you…

How To Argue With Your Elders

cartoon by: studio tdes | CC BY Arguing is important to cement relationships and it takes skill, discipline and regular practice. A bit like office fire drills. After a properly resolved argument, you will be more bonded and happier. Just like after office fire drills. But before you start, run through a few checks: Are skittish pets…

How To Live To 100

I’m just about to fly to Sicily to celebrate my grandmother’s 100th birthday. I’ll ask her how does it feel to be a centenarian and, of course, I’ll ask her what do I need to do to live that long. In the meantime, I’m making some guesses, and here are my grandma-inspired longevity tips:  …

5 Tips To Be Successful At Work

  1. Be cheerful. Everyone loves to work with a cheerful person. Cheerfully greet your colleagues, cheerfully perform your duties, cheerfully decline the extra work that your bosses will dump on you as they think that, if you’re smiling, you’ve not been given enough work. 2. Be honest about your limits. ‘If I try to…

Why Would I Want To Write A Book?

Carissimi Friends, I’m taking my foot off the pedal of blogging for a couple of months because I’m busy writing a novel. Why would I (or anyone) want to write a novel? To be rich? – No. It’d be more likely by playing the lottery To be famous – No. YouTube would work better To…

How To Be More Attractive

In movies, the ugly heroes/-ines turn into stunning beauties just by changing outfit and ditching their bottle-thick glasses. The actors haven’t changed, they’ve just switched to ‘acting attractive’ (and wearing better make-up). If they can make themselves more attractive, can we too? Attractive is as attractive does. Act attractive and you’ll be attractive. People who…

There’s a Solution to Everything

‘There’s a solution to everything, except death,’ goes an Italian proverb (A tutto c’è rimedio, tranne alla morte). My Grandma used to repeat it to me every time I despaired about something. Below you’ll find some remedies to common problems. Problem Solution Constipation Sicilian remedy: stewed apple Diarrhoea Sicilian remedy: grated apple. The ultimate pampering…